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Yes All Women

Posted in General with tags , on May 30, 2014 by theerivs

This is not about gaming, this isn’t about anything nerdy except maybe the fact it was on Twitter. Gender is a topic that fascinates me as the roles we play, and how it shapes our live, also I am on Twitter alot, and a topic that is trending of late came up, #Yesallwomen.  I saw women complain about how men did that to them, or this. I was getting angry. Surely there are women out there that don’t have these issues with men. I mean I had to believe as a man that there are women out there that are not treated like prisoners of war. I thought wrong, but I’ll get to that.

So to see exactly if it is ALL women, or maybe just a couple over vocal women who have had these issues. I created a little survey.

Survey

The results thus far was VERY eye opening, and a little sad.

So here are the results of my survey, As of this writing I have had 35 people who identify as women take the study. If you identify as male, I’m sorry I tossed your data out, but thanks for taking the survey, and I assure you will get your turn to speak.

The Results

Question #2 Have you ever had a negative experience that was caused by a male (  A very very general question I know, but thought it was a good kicking off point)

Yes -100%

No- 0%

Not a real surprise here.

Question #3 – Have you ever been raped? 

Yes – 40%

No – 60%

This was damn near half of the women. This shocked me to the core.

Question #4 – Have you ever been physically abused by a male?

Yes- 51%

No – 49%

Another point of concern that it’s at near half, and half.

Question #5 – Have you ever feel threatened by a male? (Sorry shitty grammar here, but I did the survey in 5 seconds)

Yes – 100%

No – 0%

This question was a little general too I thought but still 100%.

Question #6 – Have you ever been sexually harassed by a male? 

Yes – 92%

No – 8%

Another disturbing result.

Question #7 – I left this open to comments. 

Some of the comments are truly disturbing. From waking up with being raped, to having boyfriends beat them, drug them, abuse them. Even a stepfather raping one of them. These are people who these girls and women are suppose to trust and count on.

This survey really opened my eyes. Where did this society go wrong. How come being born a woman is a prison sentence? Why must they live in fear?  It really made me think with my own dealings with women and I think I treated them right, and with at least some modicum of respect.  They say a few bad apples ruin the bunch, but we as a bunch and I say males in general need to police our own better.

I’ll leave the survey open a bit longer, but I don’t things will change much. Don’t worry men, I’ll give you a turn as well, but as for the women I don’t know what to say. I was wrong.  I guess it is All Women. 

 

 

Happy Burfday To Me!

Posted in General with tags on September 26, 2013 by theerivs

molly-shea_cake-2-588Well I lived another year, and I would like to say I’m another year wiser…but we all know that just isn’t true.  I got to say though I may have to grow older, but I can stay immature forever.

Out of Commission

Posted in General, MMORPG, Writing with tags on August 1, 2013 by theerivs

bulldog-with-headache-cleaned-upSorry haven’t been doing much except alot of explosive diarrhea, throwing up, and other profound nastiness. Seems like I got a bag of tainted lettuce, which lucky me I get to be sick. So I apologize I’ll be out of commission probably until the end of this week. No worries if I die, I’ll ghost write this blog.

King for a Day, Fool for a Lifetime

Posted in General, Other Nerdy Pursuits with tags , , on January 24, 2013 by theerivs

kingAhh Faith No More….Oh wait no the post is about the new show on TBS called King of the Nerds. I saw the first show, and I’m pretty much hooked. Now I usually don’t get hooked on reality TV, ok Duck Dynasty a little cause somewhere in me lives a southern hillbilly. For the most part I’m a Geek. Nerd’s are a different level of smartness then me and I don’t want to claim myself a Nerd with out a Ph’D. Well let’s get back to the show. I just saw one, but here are some observations.

HOSTS–  Robert Carradine, and Curtis Armstrong….or as we who remember the movie Revenge of the Nerds as Lewis, and Booger. Man I loved that movie, it spoke to me on so many levels. To see these guys host this show is pure awesome.

NERDVANA – Game Rooms, a Radio Shack Room, Play Weapons, I didn’t catch everything, but what I did catch makes me want to win the Lottery to get all that cool stuff, I’d have to probably buy a real house too…The girlfriend would never approve.

CONTESTENTS – There are some I liked, and a few I don’t. I won’t tell my complete thoughts, I’d be here all day. I think it’s a great mix though of geeks, and nerds and really look forward to them facing off. One thing I am sad about is the loss of Hendrik. In the first episode he stepped up, and volunteered to go to the nerd off. He showed courage and determination. I hope they bring him back somehow in the future.

CONTESTS – Well one was just picking the teams, and there was a real spin to it which I didn’t quite see coming. So I have to say that was awesome. Then for the Nerd Off they played a giant game of chess, with a TOTAL hottie moving the pieces…wow. me likey.

OVERALL: I like this show, and I’m looking forward to more, they celebrate the Nerd, but not make them a laughing stock. I think I have to show some love to Danielle aka Panser for the Warcraft love in the first episode which is cool.

It airs on Thursday nights at 10/9 CST

Weekly Lagout

Posted in General with tags on December 14, 2012 by theerivs

No Weekly Lagout this week. My heart and thoughts go out to the victims, and families of the victims of the tragedy in CT.

But I just want to say, Monsters are made, not born. There’s something amiss with things, because this crap didn’t happen when I was a kid, bad shit might of happened, but the frequency of it has gone up.

 

Glorifying Geekdom: Should we actually welcome the hipsters?

Posted in General with tags , on December 5, 2012 by theerivs

From the off, I’d like to state that the following is categorically not an attack oncasual gamers, bandwagon-jumper-on-errs, or people who wear thick-rimmed glasses without any prescription in the lenses.

Nor will it be a discussion on where the ‘cool’ line is drawn. Are you only a real gamer if you can remember the theme tune to New Zealand Story without looking it up on YouTube? Are you just a dumb poser if you don’t know what the hell New Zealand Story even is? Who the hell cares, man? We’re not at high school anymore.

But I’m sure the very recent (and very sudden) culture shift hasn’t gone unnoticed.

For the first time in history, it’s apparently now cool to be a geek.

But the question is, should the dudes who were already here get defensive?Pic1 
Pre-Packaged Sexy

The global value of the video games industry has surged over the last decade, now hovering somewhere around the $70bn mark. Make no mistake, the industry has always been worth a dime or two (even in the Atari home console days), but for the first few decades the money only ever circulated between those who made games and those who played them. Maybe a bit of merchandizing too, but whatever.

All of a sudden, gaming and all the nerdy associations which go with it are now heralded as a fashion statement, and people buy into fashion statements. Before you know it, some savvy marketer realizes this and starts cashing in on it, selling a lot of pointless crap that he doesn’t understand to a group of people with more money than personality.

Can’t be angry at the marketers. Their business is to make money, not care about gaming culture. But can we be angry at the vapid consumers who are buying into the culture only because it’s now deemed acceptable?

Kinda. But being irritated by it isn’t the same as hating all the new fans who suddenly like Band X because you’ve been following them since ’82.

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The difference is, nobody treated you like a social outcast for liking Band X for thirty years, then all of a sudden agreed the band is awesome after all.

So that’s an annoying aspect to the whole ‘geeks are cool’ thing of late. I’m not saying that growing up as a nerd is anywhere near the worst stigma at the puberty party, but it’s a bit rich that we had to almost seem ashamed of such an innocent hobby for so many years only for everyone to join the road after we’ve paved it.

But the Hipsters Might Cure Cancer. Seriously.

What? Yes, I did just say that. Stick with this as we move over to the flip-side.

Firstly, the reason why it’s a bit puerile and childish to hate your favorite indy band as soon as they become mainstream is because you’re supposed to want them to succeed. You haven’t been supporting them all these years with the hopes that they can’t fill out anything more than a small club or buy decent coke, have you?

A similar principle could be argued for the explosion in gaming, minus the drugs (although playing Guild Wars on mushrooms is one hell of an experience). Gaming is now accepted as a social experience, as an art form; already the shrill accusations that games turn you into a school-shootin’ psychopath are becoming more infrequent and sounding sillier by the day. If the price of having this brilliant art form accepted by – and accessible to – the masses is having some hipsters on board who claim to play games to look ‘alternative’, then I’m all for it.

Without the glorification of geekdom, we almost certainly wouldn’t see the likes of Felicia Day making a mainstream success of herself, and that’s not the kind of world I want to live in. Remember: for every wannabe ‘gamer girl’ who puts on some thick-rimmed glasses, an actual hot girl who genuinely loves WoW just came out of her basement.

The Knock-On Effect

Taking things one step further, the more society embraces nerdy pursuits as being ‘sexy’ (whatever that means), the more society benefits. Compare and contrast Bill Gates’ image in the 90s, with Steve Jobs’ image in the 21st century.

The acerbic web writer Maddox ruthlessly picked apart the ‘geeks are sexy’ thing in an article last month. While his schtick has always been to go a bit over the top, and he talks about science rather than gaming, he does hit the nail on the head and I’ve even borrowed a couple of his observations here.

But I think he’s missing the bigger picture.

This isn’t about protecting hobbies and interests. If gaming is embraced, it puts a lot of money into the industry. This money creates the kind of jobs out-of-work creatives would kill to get into. It fuels interest and puts bums on seats at places such as the NYFA game design school. In turn, it creates better games.

And outside of gaming, this glorification of intellectual pursuits can by a boon to the science and technology sectors, to such an extent that I wouldn’t be surprised if someone who got into biochemistry after Portal left a big impression on her went on to cure cancer.

Honestly. It’s just a numbers game – someone is going to do it, so why not a newly-transformed geek?

So let’s welcome everyone, old and new, into gaming. Let’s get more people into programming and app development and science.

But just not like this…

… Good lord, not like this:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g032MPrSjFA

Do you agree with my irrefutable logic, or do you still think get irate at hipsters jumping on the game bandwagon? Either way, leave a comment below. Fiiiiiiight!

Prayers and Thoughts

Posted in General with tags on October 29, 2012 by theerivs

Are going out to the people in the Northeast braving Hurricane Sandy. Good Luck, and Be Safe

5 Things Women are Better at Than Men

Posted in General, Other Nerdy Pursuits with tags , , on August 16, 2012 by theerivs

I thought to give you another fun post. I have been labelled everything from chauvinistic to mysogistic, and everything in between. That is so untrue I firmly believe there are some things women do, that simply men can not match.

1. Take Pictures of Themselves – Women when they take a picture of themselves, whether doing the arm stretch with the phone, or in a mirror it always looks good to really good. When Men do it we either look like a creep, or a douchebag a la Pauly D.

2. Cosplay – Seems to me most women go that extra mile when they Cosplay, Men seem to me half assing  it. Like we’ll just put this shit together. Well at least I hope those are women.

3. Jedi Mind Tricks – Any guy who finds himself hunting for some Chocolate Brownie Ice Cream in the middle of the night, at the 3rd 7-11 he went to knows what I mean by this. From tears to puppy dog eyes, us men from time to time think to ourselves. “What the hell just happened?”

4. Memory for Details – I don’t know if Men just don’t care what you wore on our first date, or something is physically wrong with our memory or the way it works. Women have the most uncanny sense to remember miniscule things. Like when I use to get into arguments with my ex-girlfriend, she would go, “Remember what you said September 30, 2011″  I was like…”Uhm…No” 

5. Multi-Task – Most Women are awesome multi-taskers. I know a girl who would do her homework, watch her TV shows, talk on the phone all at the same time. Just the thought processes of a girls mind boggle me, like I could be talking about what we should have for dinner, all of a sudden my ex would look up, and go “I think you need some drapes in here”  I would just give her a look like a lost puppy, “Huh?”

So there you have it, some things I believe women are better at then men.

Let’s Beat a Dead Horse called Feminism

Posted in Gaming, General, MMORPG with tags , , on August 8, 2012 by theerivs

First I love beating a dead horse, not a real horse, I just like dissecting a topic, and analyzing it alot.

So the Bossy Pally made a post about Identity, and Self Identity. In it she made a reference to an older post from a different blogger the Noisy Rogue, she used it as  a reference of escapism. That this blogger was escaping the crucible of his life by using games. Though the post was more pointed at feminists, and used to slander them almost. It basically said you come to my house, you play by my rules. Plus NPR is doing a show on it as well.  It made me think, “Has things gotten better?”

A House Divided…

As of March, I see feminism again becomes a topic among some of my fellow bloggers. This time Effraeti stand’s up and says she is not a feminist. After reading her post, I found myself agreeing with ALOT of what she said. Unfortunately the Feminists did not, and they launched an offensive. These feminists crying they are oppressed by society, and that they want to be treated equally, even when they separate themselves by hate rhetoric, and toss someone who wants more equality under the bus. As a the former president Abe Lincoln once stated, “A house divided, can not stand” . As long as Feminists continue to keep everyone at arm’s length with hate, and not try to embrace their female sisters who don’t subscribe to their hateful rhetoric, they will not be taken for serious. 

Ack…Ack…A…Dack

There was a Flinstones episode where Betty, and Wilma want to see what the Boys do at their lodge, and to get in they have to say the password…”Ack, Ack, A Dack”  I noticed that over my lifetime, that women always want to break into male oriented things, then when their in, demand things become more girlie. When a girlfriend comes into my male dominated house first thing they do is buying throw pillows, and scented candles. Men don’t have this need to be a part of anything female oriented, well most straight men I know. We don’t go into an Oprahs Bookclub, and demand we read Vince Lombardi’s book. (I’ll wait why the women google that)  When we resist, we are being horribly male. Yes gaming is male dominated, what gives you the right to demand anything? Because you’re female, you have the right not to be looked down upon by us males until you prove yourself. In male culture, that’s what we do on a daily basis, we prove ourselves. Feminists love to mention privilege, I don’t think males have privilege, we have our own trials and tribulations, and your right we may have some privileges, but you as a female have a different set of privileges.

Where I let the little head, do the thinking for the big head…

I was reading over my thoughts  (sadly empowered fire is gone, another arch enemy gone  ) over this subject from a couple years ago, and I noticed it hasn’t changed alot. I feel we all have our problems, whether you’re a male, or female. We all have those expectations placed on us, it’s up to us to either live up to those, or break the mold so to speak. Now I am not the same man I was 2 years ago, I think I’ve become more open…well a little bit more. I do believe we live in a violent culture, and that we as humans are nothing more than animals with a thin veneer we call civility to mask our baser instincts. I have to illusions of what, or who I am. Let me put it this way, if we we’re alone on a desert island, and it was a choice between you, or me…who do you think is going to be dinner?

Is it getting better?

I posed that question to the Female Twitterati (What I call people who use Twitter), and some of them responded it really hasn’t, but the ability to discuss it has become more open. I think it’s a positive move. In spite of my caveman, phallic centric, sexist views, I really do believe in about 100 years from now things will be much different. If we get past 2012, those damn Mayan soothsayers,  with all the phyto estrogens in our soy products, we’re all going to hermaphrodites. For right now though, we still have to live with each other, let’s try to play nice in the sandbox.

You can be whoever you want to be.

Posted in General, Other Nerdy Pursuits, Writing with tags on June 22, 2012 by theerivs

I kind of want to clear something up, even though I  wave my red blooded American Hetero Male Flag like it’s going out of business, I in no way condone mistreatment of others.

When I was fresh out of High School, I went to work at a quick oil change place. This place was filled with more scum, and villiany then the Catina in Star Wars. Here I met “Teddy”. Teddy was a unique man, in respects I don’t know if he was a hippy per se, or just really high all the time. The first time I met Teddy, he looks me in the eye and goes, “You can be whoever you want to be, you want to take that last piece of pizza,  you take it”

The reason I bring that up. I recently came across a post about Proudmore Pride, and I was thrown back a notch. I didn’t think events like this still occured in WoW. Oh I remember the heyday of WoW there were huge events.  It kind of warmed my heart a bit to see it.

As I dug deeper into Ironyca’s blog I found this post. Tell you the truth I find the whole subject of gender, and gender roles facsinating. When I say I am a man. What does that mean? What does it mean to be a man? On the flip side of the coin what does life look like from the other side. In virtual world’s you get to change your perspective, and I delved into that myself. To me life is perspective, and when you change your perspective of things, you change your life.

Here’s the thing if you fill your life with hate or prejudice you will as even the bible says, “Reap what you sew”. So when I say I am a man, my Dad once told me, “As a man you must do the right thing, even when the right thing isn’t popular”. Found out later he stole that, but I don’t care I’m still giving the old man credit.

The right thing is whether you’re a women, a gay, a lesbian, and yes even a role-player. I may not agree with you, I might not like what you say, but I will keep an open mind, and not judge you, for even Jesus said, “He without sin, cast the first stone” when those people were judging the harlot, and folks I have a shit ton of sins. Here’s the payoff keep an open mind, and who knows one day you might have your perspective changed, and then your life will change.

As for my friend Teddy, he passed away hiking in Alaska when he fell and hit his head on a rock, and I’ll miss that man because he wise beyond his years, and he could play spoons like none other.